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Masks can't remember why you're crying
I'm forty-eight
In flash memory
Hardly ever accurate
Forty-nine in real time
Though
Nearly fifty
Coming up too soon
Thirteen
Trying to stay the child I used to be
Fighting the loss of that life and the ways I wished it could be
I remember being alone
I had dogs
And cats
And a lot of dreams fueled by books and movies
And games
And teachers telling me how good I am at so many things
And I was really good at being alone
I was really good at being alone
But they didn't give out smelly stickers for that
Nor shiny gold stars
Didn't clap me on the back and say
Good for you!
With an A-plus-plus in the upper corner of a sheet
Testing what I knew about talking to myself in my room
Because no one else was there except the ghosts I had to dream
And all those adult voices getting stuck in my head
Telling me how great I was
And how far I'd go
And look at me now!
T-shirt and underwear writing on a years-old gifted computer
Hating washing dishes so I'm eating off of paper plate
And drinking coffee black because after forty years I finally realized
I like it that way
I actually like it that way
Not the same for the emptiness
Not the same for the solitude
My cat walks in and out of the room
Sometimes looking for attention
Sometimes looking for food
Every time breaking my stride
And I have to start over
I was told I could write
But look at me now!
Where are my books?
The ones everyone said companies would be sucking my dick to publish?
Oh, there they are
Decomposing in the corner with every other lie
Like hemorrhoids on an ass bleeding raw and dry
Like memories and smiles more than forty god damned years old
Sometime before I turned thirteen
I don't remember if anything happened then
It's just when I think things started to change
And I started seeing the outlines and mistakes in my cartoon time
The lips moving on the dummy on the *STM club
Not the lady
The guy before
I don't remember his name
Just Central NY TV shit
I wasn't old
We were still mostly little
I think my sister got his autograph
I won't try to ask her though
She's not someone I need to know
My grandparents are dead
No one tried to tell me
My real ones
Not the replacement who thought I was her son
They died around my birthday
Before and after
A month apart last year
I didn't know
It hurt to find out on my own
Seeing their obituaries come up on the screen so recently
Still hurts
Fills me with pain
And rage
And my eyes want to cry but I'm holding that shit in
I hope to flood the world with it when I finally die
There are people you think will be around forever
Long enough to talk to again
I'm betting my mother will be next
Not the one I remember
The one that is today
I don't know her at all
Except for a seconds-long talk on my grandparents phone years ago
During Christmas dinner
That I wasn't prepared for
Wasn't ready to have
Didn't want at the time
How do you let someone just take your child?
And raise them as their own?
Rape
Oh
yeah
I hadn't forgot
Nobody wants the rape kid
The rape kid a few rungs short of a tree house
The rape kid with emotional issues
The undiagnosed autistic one no one knows was born that way
I don't think I got it from him
Must have got the alone from him
Though
And everyone else
But she will die
The one I don't know
And if she goes before me I will cry
Because the one I don't know could have been the one I do
If this world had any good
I used to be good at things like this
I was told
At handling the big things that came up
No one knew how I was handling Martha dying so well
And didn't seem to mind living with the abusers
Masks were easy to make
I didn't have to be good at those
Just good enough
It helps when you're never hit on the outside
Masks can't remember why you're crying again
* The STM Club was a local children’s show in the 1980s that aired as afterschool entertainment in central New York. Each episode showed usually two, but sometimes more, usually unrelated cartoons per episode. It was hosted by a handful of local television station staff that worked at the time for channel WSTM (Channel 3, out of Syracuse, NY) who played live action characters; as well as by two separate ventriloquists at different times in the show’s history, Dennis Bowman (originally), and Beth Sutton (until live hosts were phased out in favor of just showing cartoons).
** This is from a collection of poems I have been writing throughout the month of May, 2025, and may not reflect the day in May that it was written on.